Making sure we'd had our bridesmaid dresses altered, hair and make up had been scheduled, flowers had been arranged, the menu had been planned, the celebrant and photographer booked, accommodation confirmed, the usual.
Last Sunday I got a phone call which I assumed was going to be about buying our shoes or arrangements for the hen's night or something.
Turns out the wedding is off...
I was shocked.
And then I thought about it and I wasn't.
And then I was shocked that I wasn't shocked.
So I guess my original shock was just surprise rather than having trouble wrapping my head around the fact.
They've been together for 6 years and have been fairly solid for that time but they had their problems and had never really given off that 'soul mate' vibe.
Going into a marriage you'd assume you'd want that 'I want to be with this person forever' vibe to be pretty strong or you'd wonder if it was really a good fit.
My friend seems to be taking things surprisingly well - probably another indicator that she's done the right thing - and so my main concern will be being there for her when she needs me.
Even if she's done the right thing you have to assume there will be some 'I've just come out of a 6 year relationship' emotional turbulence somewhere down the track.
Now if only I could get my brain to fully absorb this new reality and stop thinking stupid things like this:
- "I'm forgetting something... Oh, right! I still haven't picked a song to request for the receptio- Oh..."
- "Man, I had better buy my shoes pretty quickly or- Oh..."
- "I haven't got my outfit organised for the hen's ni- Right..."
- "Better remember to ask my boss for time off so I can help organise the- No, wait..."
- "I wonder if they've got all the RSVPaaahwaitasecond..."
No, not like usual, I mean really bad.
The other inappropriate stuff you say is friggin' hilarious, you keep that up.