My sister is getting married this year.
This month actually.
This is a thought that I feel should be making my brain boggle but she and brother-in-law-to-be have been together for so long and are so absurdly suited to each other it seems more a formality than anything else.
At this stage all we need to remember to do is turn up in the right dresses and shoes and we will be set.
The one thing we did need to get done and done properly before the big day was her hen's party.
I could give you a run down of what we got up to but a) that'd be a bit anecdotal and 'hey I went to a party that you weren't at' and b) it was a private party for my sister and none of your beeswax so instead I'm going to talk about something else.
There's a lot of build-up around what's supposed to happen at hen's parties since they attracted the hivemind's attention so I've decided to use this post to make one particular point, one that I think isn't made enough.
If it is your hen's party you can do WHATEVER YOU DAMN WELL WANT.
This includes telling people who are trying to tell you what you HAVE to do to take their suggestions and jam them up their jacksies.
If you want to get rowdy and take it to the streets that's fine, if that's how you like to play you'll have a ball.
If you're usually a quiet person, like doing things differently or just don't think it's the business of everyone in the damn town/suburb/city that you're getting married you don't HAVE to go out and do specific things and nobody is allowed to tell you that you should.
If you want to go paintballing - Go!
If you want to go to a day spa - Go!
If you want to have a BBQ, get drunk and play Rock Band - Do!
1950s glamour pin-up photoshoot!
There is no limit to what you can do for your party, pick whatever you're happiest with and do that.
It is a party to celebrate your life so far, your friendships with the people you invite and the life you have ahead of you - there is no rule that says it has to be just one thing.
You shouldn't have a particular hen's party because you think it's expected of you any more than you should have a particular wedding because that's what you think is expected of you.
Do what makes you happy.
PS. In case you were wondering, no we didn't get a stripper. Just in case instead of Hugh Jackman...
...we got Har Mar Superstar*....
...who does indeed strip with confidence and alacrity but not to the same reception.
*Or someone I went to school with. I don't know why I'm so convinced lately that someone I went to school with will one day take their clothes off in front of me for money.